Only Children
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yonkyuOnly Children
Being the only child is a unique position in a family. Without any siblings to compete with, the only child monopolizes his parents' attention and resources, not just for a short period of time like a firstborn, but forever. In effect, this makes an only child something like a "super-firstborn": only children have the privilege (and the burden) of having all their parents' support and expectations on their shoulders. Thus, only children tend to be:
Mature for their age
Perfectionists
Conscientious
Diligent
Leaders
Imagine if you grew up never having to share the bathroom, your toys, or the TV? Do you think this would affect your personality and relationships?
Child and Parents"Only children" spend a lot of time with grown-ups, so they can often be confident and well-spoken. Sometimes people even think of them as "little adults"! At the same time, they can find themselves under a ton of pressure to succeed.
Famous "Onlies":
Men Women
Robert DeNiro Natalie Portman
Tommy Lee Jones Charlize Theron
Robin Williams Sarah Michelle Gellar
There are many reasons why a Mom and Dad might have only one child. Sometimes it's not physically possible for them, but often, it's because this is their choice.
Here are some common personality traits of "only children":
Confident: Only children are usually not afraid to make decisions and are comfortable with their opinions.
Pays Attention to Detail: They like things to be organized and are often on time.
Good in School: Onlies tend to read a lot and have a good memory for facts and figures.
It's MINE!: Only children might have difficulty sharing or going second because they have always been first in line for everything.
Overly Critical: While being a perfectionist is not such a bad thing, you may have a tendency to take this to extremes and be really critical of yourself and others. This is my biggest problem and plays a HUGE part into my writing :/
Only children
Only children may demonstrate characteristics of firstborns and lastborns. Firstborns, after all, are only children until the first sibling is born. Only children grow up relating to adults in the family but have trouble relating to peers. However, this changes as they reach adulthood and get along well with adults.
Only children are achievement-oriented and most likely to attain academic success and attend college. They may also be creative. But only children can be pampered and spoiled as lastborns and can be self-centered. They may rely on service from others rather than their exert their own efforts. They sometimes please others if it suits them but may also be uncooperative. They can also be over-protected.
Some only children become hypercritical, not tolerating mistakes or failure in themselves or others. They can also transform this perfectionist tendency into rescuing behavior, agonizing over the problems of others and rushing to take over and solve everything without letting others help themselves.
Read more: http://www.healthofchildren.com/B/Birth-Order.html#ixzz3Fh6HErZZ
First-born* (* Only children are similar to first-borns, but much more so, and often a bit more self-centered.)
Perfectionist
Achiever
Conscientious
Loyal
Well-organized (list-makers)
Reliable
Goal-oriented
Self-sacrificing
Critical
Conservative
Scholarly
Rule-followers (and makers)
Inferiority issues
Self-reliant
Serious
Interesting Article on Birth Order and Only Children
http://personalityresearch.org/papers/eischens2.html
Seriously this is me in a nut shell
Being the only child is a unique position in a family. Without any siblings to compete with, the only child monopolizes his parents' attention and resources, not just for a short period of time like a firstborn, but forever. In effect, this makes an only child something like a "super-firstborn": only children have the privilege (and the burden) of having all their parents' support and expectations on their shoulders. Thus, only children tend to be:
Mature for their age
Perfectionists
Conscientious
Diligent
Leaders
Imagine if you grew up never having to share the bathroom, your toys, or the TV? Do you think this would affect your personality and relationships?
Child and Parents"Only children" spend a lot of time with grown-ups, so they can often be confident and well-spoken. Sometimes people even think of them as "little adults"! At the same time, they can find themselves under a ton of pressure to succeed.
Famous "Onlies":
Men Women
Robert DeNiro Natalie Portman
Tommy Lee Jones Charlize Theron
Robin Williams Sarah Michelle Gellar
There are many reasons why a Mom and Dad might have only one child. Sometimes it's not physically possible for them, but often, it's because this is their choice.
Here are some common personality traits of "only children":
Confident: Only children are usually not afraid to make decisions and are comfortable with their opinions.
Pays Attention to Detail: They like things to be organized and are often on time.
Good in School: Onlies tend to read a lot and have a good memory for facts and figures.
It's MINE!: Only children might have difficulty sharing or going second because they have always been first in line for everything.
Overly Critical: While being a perfectionist is not such a bad thing, you may have a tendency to take this to extremes and be really critical of yourself and others. This is my biggest problem and plays a HUGE part into my writing :/
Only children
Only children may demonstrate characteristics of firstborns and lastborns. Firstborns, after all, are only children until the first sibling is born. Only children grow up relating to adults in the family but have trouble relating to peers. However, this changes as they reach adulthood and get along well with adults.
Only children are achievement-oriented and most likely to attain academic success and attend college. They may also be creative. But only children can be pampered and spoiled as lastborns and can be self-centered. They may rely on service from others rather than their exert their own efforts. They sometimes please others if it suits them but may also be uncooperative. They can also be over-protected.
Some only children become hypercritical, not tolerating mistakes or failure in themselves or others. They can also transform this perfectionist tendency into rescuing behavior, agonizing over the problems of others and rushing to take over and solve everything without letting others help themselves.
Read more: http://www.healthofchildren.com/B/Birth-Order.html#ixzz3Fh6HErZZ
First-born* (* Only children are similar to first-borns, but much more so, and often a bit more self-centered.)
Perfectionist
Achiever
Conscientious
Loyal
Well-organized (list-makers)
Reliable
Goal-oriented
Self-sacrificing
Critical
Conservative
Scholarly
Rule-followers (and makers)
Inferiority issues
Self-reliant
Serious
Interesting Article on Birth Order and Only Children
http://personalityresearch.org/papers/eischens2.html
Seriously this is me in a nut shell
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Date: 2014-10-10 01:35 am (UTC)Interesting article.
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Date: 2014-10-11 12:14 am (UTC)Overly Critical: While being a perfectionist is not such a bad thing, you may have a tendency to take this to extremes and be really critical of yourself and others. "This is my problem when it comes to writing in fandom. I read wonderful stories and then reflect on my own - I think no one will read this. I have find writing my stories and enjoy them but my writing skills will never be like the authors that inspire me.
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Date: 2014-10-10 07:40 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2014-10-11 12:17 am (UTC)Overly Critical: While being a perfectionist is not such a bad thing, you may have a tendency to take this to extremes and be really critical of yourself and others. "This right here hun, is WHY this journey I'm on with you with my writing is a roller-coaster of knowledge, learning, growth, and overwhelming at the same time. I'm enjoying the journey and experience and the why you're helping is very beneficial for me in the long run. I expect small progress and I don't expect high standards for this story. I'm enjoying the process."